FEMINIST HONORS MEN ON FATHER’S DAY:
One day I was
visiting with my friend Hugh Nibley, Mormon scholar.
“Ah, yes,” he said, regarding some historical references
I asked about, “the matriarchy. We all know about the
matriarchy. It preceded the matriarchy.”
I later learned he wrote a paper on “Patriarchy and Matriarchy,” and with the help of Mr. Google, I just found it. http://maxwellinstitute.byu.edu/publications/transcripts/?id=151.
Wondering if he could possibly have used the “P” word there, I enlisted Ms. Word Search and quickly found: “Central to the drama was a never-ending tension and conflict between the matriarchal the patriarchal orders, both of which were perversions. Each has its peculiar brand of corruption.”
I have never become friends with the word “patriarchy.” And so you will understand why I said what I did to my friend Chuck Young as I sat beside him in a sacrament meeting in my ward a few years ago. At the pulpit was Dean Criddle (then high councilman, now stake president--yes, the very one who led our stake last year in the splendid effort better to understand and love our gay brothers and sisters. http://www.sltrib.com/faith/ci_14336708.)
I leaned over
and whispered in Chuck’s ear, “Chuck, do you know what
really pisses me off about the Mormon
And so I, as a feminist who believes there is somewhere a better word and a better world than patriarchy, want to honor, as we approach Father’s Day, the many, many extraordinarily wonderful men that inhabit my life. I have personally received huge gifts of validation and appreciation and all kinds of love and assistance from my male family members, my male friends, my male church leaders. The list of men that I adore is very long.
My children grew up essentially in a fatherless house. I realize constantly that what they missed was monumental. So on this Father’s Day I am sending thanks to and blessings on every man--father or not--within reach of this little missive. Here’s to the indispensable and generally terrific (slightly more than) fifty percent of the children of our Father and Mother in Heaven who are male.
FACING EAST THIS MONTH IN ROCHESTER:
from the director--(note
the line in bold!)
RELEASE OF “8: THE MORMON PROPOSITION”: The new documentary by Reed Cowan is opening in June in many major cities. The film will also be available June 18th on Movies on Demand, PPV, Digital Distribution (iTunes, etc). See http://www.mormonproposition.com/. I, along with dozens of others, was interviewed for this film. I have not seen it, but understand it to be a pretty devastating look at an experience and at issues that were heart-breaking to many, many people. I hope that the film and all the discussion around it will generate not only heat, but light. (Please don’t write to ask me to engage in debating this film with you.)
“When I was a boy of fourteen, my father was so ignorant I could hardly stand to have the old man around. But when I got to be twenty-one, I was astonished at how much the old man had learned in seven years.” ~Mark Twain
“The most important thing a father can do for his children is to love their mother.” ~Henry Ward Beecher
“Don’t eat me. I have a wife and kids. Eat them.” ~Homer Simpson